‘I forgive you’: Tearful relatives of Charleston victims confront ‘killer’ in court with heart-wrenching speeches of Christian FORGIVENESS – as he adopts a vacant, remorseless stare………….
Relatives of the victims gunned down in the South Carolina church massacre told the killer that they forgive him in heart-wrenching statements during his first court appearance today.
‘I forgive you!’ the daughter of Ethel Lance told Dylann Roof through tears as he appeared via video link at the Charleston court on Friday afternoon. ‘You took something really precious from me. I will never talk to her ever again, I will never be able to hold her ever again but I forgive you!
‘You hurt me, you hurt a lot of people but God forgives you. And I forgive you.’
With the deepest respect to the families of the lost loved ones I share another view………..
Forgive? NOT YET. In due time………..
You’re Dead, I’m Healing
By Dennis Prager:
Within hours of the massacre of more than 30 people at Virginia Tech University, the president of the university issued his first statement on the evil that had just engulfed the college campus and concluded with this:
“We’re making plans for a convocation tomorrow at noon in Cassell Coliseum for the university to come together to begin the healing process from this terrible tragedy.”
I believe that this early healing talk is both foolish and immoral.
It is foolish because one does not speak about healing the same day (or week or perhaps even month) that one is traumatized — especially by evil. One must be allowed time for anger and grief. To speak of healing and “closure” before one goes through those other emotions is to speak not of healing but of suppression.
Not to allow people time to experience their natural, and noble, instincts to feel rage and grief actually deprives them of the ability to heal in the long run. After all, if there is no rage and grief, what is there to heal from?
The Jewish tradition, still observed even by non-Orthodox Jews, is to sit “shiva” (seven) days and do nothing but mourn and receive visitors after the death of an immediate relative. One does not have to be a religious Jew or even a Jew to appreciate this ancient wisdom.
Personally, I don’t want to heal now. I want to feel rage at the monster who slaughtered all those young innocent people at Virginia Tech. And I want to grieve over those innocents’ deaths.
This whole notion of instant healing (like its twin, instant forgiveness) is also morally wrong.
First, it is narcissistic. It focuses on me and my pain, not on the murderer and the murdered.
And why is it always referred to as a “tragedy”? Virginia Tech wasn’t hit by a cyclone. That would be a tragedy. This was evil. Call it that.
Anger is anger.
Anger, my friends, is a natural and indispensable emotion.
It is not right nor wrong; it is not healthy nor unhealthy.
It is how anger is expressed that makes it healthy or unhealthy.
Feeling anger is poles apart from expressing anger.
Healthy anger is not violent.
It isn’t used to intimidate, control, manipulate or punish another human being.
But what it can be ..is.. expressed, talked and moved through.
Healthy anger is not stuffed down or overlooked either.
By repressing feelings and “stuffing them down”, it becomes out of the question to eventually work through feelings or ever move past them.
“Personally, I don’t want to heal now. I want to feel rage at the monster (though I know he suffered in his life…) who slaughtered all those young innocent people in Charleston, South Carolina. And I want to grieve over those innocents’ deaths.”
………More than fair enough.
Dearest Families and Friends of the wounded and taken.
I wish there was something I could do to to console, comfort, soothe, provide solace, or allay your unending sorrow or grief.
I know they’re only words, but words are all I have to try to take some of your heartache away.
May your beautiful memories of them, and their personal strengths and special qualities be a source of comfort to you all.
I will hold you all dearly in my thoughts and prayers.