A backlash has begun against the all-must-have-prizes culture that has produced children used to getting their own way..
Our little emperors: does worrying do more harm than good?
As the mother of two young daughters,… is used to doling out praise for almost everything they do. Even she was taken aback, however, when her younger daughter, Rachel, now 5, arrived home from nursery clutching a certificate for “sitting nicely on the carpet”.
“It made me wonder what she was doing the rest of the time,” …. “I thought it was a bit over the top rewarding her for something so routine. But it’s part of a whole culture of stickers and smiley faces and ‘celebration assemblies’.”
The received wisdom on child-rearing says nothing should be allowed to damage a child’s sense of self-worth: just last week the Football Association (FA) decided to ban teams including children under eight from publishing their results, for fear of putting the kids under too much pressure if they lost a match.
It is becoming a worldwide trend. A recent production of Snow White at a primary school in Japan featured 25 Snow Whites, no dwarfs and no wicked witch, as parents objected to one child being picked out for the title role. In Sweden a boy was prevented from handing out invitations to his birthday party at school because he was “discriminating” against the two classmates he did not invite.
“Too many kids … are growing up without boundaries, without discipline and without the family structures they need,” he said. “We should bring back discipline and the idea of punishment.”
FYI. This amazing country of ours was built on strength and honor, not touchy feely dimwits who allow everyone to “win”, while eliminating all healthy competition and discipline.
The joy of witnessing these little 4 and 5 year old “rock stars” with their parents fawning over their every move..Uh huh… Asking children what they want for dinner, what they choose to wear, how they “feel” every 15 seconds.
Guess what folks?
Everyone is NOT always a winner.
Common sense, responsibilty for oneself, respect for authority and decency have all been deep sixed in favor of “feeling good alla time.”
These touchy feely kids grow up not giving a fig for anyone but their sorry, self centered selves.
As adults, they remain coddled and over-indulged just as much as children.
Our Pop Idol culture offers “prizes” for every job well done.
What does our culture value? Pushiness, self-centeredness and attention-seeking behaviors seem to be prized far above talent and discipline for men. Looks, thinness, and sexualizing themselves is what is prized for women.
Giving kids a medal for helping tidy his desk or everytime he manages to “sit still”?
How many more rewards, stickers, smiley faces,and dang star charts do these children have to get before they realize this behavior should be expected, not rewarded?
Howzabout we teach our kids to be independent, allow them to fail and actually learn from it. Hmmmm.
To be polite and courteous , yes, and oooh… even competitive!
They will run circles around the little snowflakes who run to mommy (and eventually to government), to complain about every challenge life throws at them.
Between you and me, a huge part of this fiasco has been generated (out of guilt),by women who work long hours outside of the home, spend little time with their children, and have “nannies” do what “mommy” ideally should be doing.
But despite their absentee mothering…………
Their children must be seen by all as a pinnacle of their achievements in life.
You can choose to be your child’s friend, or your child’s parent.
Being buddies may is easier, but only the latter is really raising a child.
The “friendship” part kicks in…when they are much older…and IF, you actually raised them.
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