Raising a Generation of Spoiled Brats

The latest…

A restaurant in the Montrose area is getting a lot of attention lately, not because of the food but because of a “rule card” it’s handing out to parents.

Ana Beaven and Charlie McDaniel are the couple behind the restaurant called “Cuchara,” which means “spoon” in Spanish.

They’ve invested three years into their Mexican restaurant, which is in the heart of Montrose. Most of the art is from Mexico.

“They are almost impossible to replace,” said Beaven.

They open their doors to everyone but there is one warning to parents.

“Just take responsibility for your kids,” said McDaniel.

The couple said after many incidents at the restaurant they decided to print the “rules card” and hand them out to parents.

“(During one incident) the child jumped on top of the chair and then started (climbing) up a wall,” said Beaven. “(During another incident a) child took a quarter and began marking, doing tick-tac-toe.”

That last incident was the last straw, said Beaven. The child caused about $1,500 worth of damage.

Montrose restaurant hands out children’s behavior ‘rule cards’ to parents
(Tip o’ the hat to the Zispter)

And lest we forget this goodie….

A backlash has begun against the all-must-have-prizes culture that has produced children used to getting their own way..
Our little emperors: does worrying do more harm than good?

As the mother of two young daughters,… is used to doling out praise for almost everything they do. Even she was taken aback, however, when her younger daughter, Rachel, now 5, arrived home from nursery clutching a certificate for “sitting nicely on the carpet”.

“It made me wonder what she was doing the rest of the time,” …. “I thought it was a bit over the top rewarding her for something so routine. But it’s part of a whole culture of stickers and smiley faces and ‘celebration assemblies’.”

The received wisdom on child-rearing says nothing should be allowed to damage a child’s sense of self-worth: just last week the Football Association (FA) decided to ban teams including children under eight from publishing their results, for fear of putting the kids under too much pressure if they lost a match.
It is becoming a worldwide trend. A recent production of Snow White at a primary school in Japan featured 25 Snow Whites, no dwarfs and no wicked witch, as parents objected to one child being picked out for the title role. In Sweden a boy was prevented from handing out invitations to his birthday party at school because he was “discriminating” against the two classmates he did not invite.

“Too many kids … are growing up without boundaries, without discipline and without the family structures they need,” he said. “We should bring back discipline and the idea of punishment.”

FYI. This amazing country of ours was built on strength and honor, not touchy feely dimwits who allow everyone to “win”, while eliminating all healthy competition and discipline.

The joy of witnessing these little 4 and 5 year old “rock stars” with their parents fawning over their every move..Uh huh… Asking children what they want for dinner, what they choose to wear, how they “feel” every 15 seconds.

Guess what folks?
Everyone is NOT always a winner.

Common sense, responsibilty for oneself, respect for authority and decency have all been deep sixed in favor of “feeling good alla time.”

These touchy feely kids grow up not giving a fig for anyone but their sorry, self centered selves.
As adults, they remain coddled and over-indulged just as much as children.

Our Pop Idol culture offers “prizes” for every job well done.
What does our culture value? Pushiness, self-centeredness and attention-seeking behaviors seem to be prized far above talent and discipline for men. Looks, thinness, and sexualizing themselves is what is prized for women.

Giving kids a medal for helping tidy his desk or everytime he manages to “sit still”?

How many more rewards, stickers, smiley faces,and dang star charts do these children have to get before they realize this behavior should be expected, not rewarded?

Howzabout we teach our kids to be independent, allow them to fail and actually learn from it. Hmmmm.

To be polite and courteous , yes, and oooh… even competitive!
They will run circles around the little snowflakes who run to mommy (and eventually to government), to complain about every challenge life throws at them.

Between you and me, a huge part of this fiasco has been generated (out of guilt),by women who work long hours outside of the home, spend little time with their children, and have “nannies” do what “mommy” ideally should be doing.
But despite their absentee mothering…………
Their children must be seen by all as a pinnacle of their achievements in life.

You can choose to be your child’s friend, or your child’s parent.

Being buddies may is easier, but only the latter is really raising a child.

The “friendship” part kicks in…when they are much older…and IF, you actually raised them.

11 Responses to “Raising a Generation of Spoiled Brats”

  1. Adrienne says:

    All the comments on the Montrose restaurant article are positive. I hate screaming kids when I eat out.

  2. Always On Watch says:

    Guess what folks?
    Everyone is NOT always a winner.

    No kidding!

    I remember when this self-esteem-in-the-extreme nonsense became all the rage in education. Parents became whiners to the point that parent-teacher conferences became laughable.

    Academically, the results are clear: let students retake every test or redo every assignment so as to get an A, and learning declines.

    And we have “sensitive little snowflakes” who engage infantile whining at the college level. They are provided rooms with soft blankets and cuddly stuffed toys so as to “cope with micro-agressions.”

    The madness has now reached the point that Oxford University has publicly stated that transcript grades are totally unreliable because every transcript they see — particularly from American schools — are loaded with A‘s. Oxford has now designed its own admissions test, which is administered in addition to other tests (SAT’s, for example).

  3. ptgal25 says:

    In this world of ipods, ipads, iphones and instant gratification neither parents or children have any patience anymore to do what’s right. They don’t spend quality time together to build on respect and understanding, they don’t discipline because they don’t want to be viewed as “abusive” (heaven forbid that a parent says no) and they don’t want to upset their child. There is a disconnect overall in parent-child relationships because they are respectively “connected” elsewhere. When we observe a child climbing on a table or writing on a wall the parent in most cases these days is texting on whatever handheld device they have. A child has to call “mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy” probably 10 more times before mommy actually looks up to see what he/she wants. Sadly, if as adults we have no attention span, common courtesy and respect, can we really expect that from our kids?

  4. Comedy Plus says:

    I’ve gone to very nice restaurants where there were kids that were horrible and the parents did nothing. We just left. We of course told the manager why.

    I agree that there are too many parents that don’t teach their kids anything. I can’t stand those parents and I certainly can’t stand the kids. Boundaries are necessary.

    Have a fabulous day honey. Big hugs. ♥♥♥

  5. Jess says:

    I think the rules should be simple: “If you child breaks anything, causes damage, disturbs other patrons, or becomes unruly, we’ll not only escort you from the dining area, we’ll throw all of you into the grease trap.”

  6. carol-christian soldier says:

    My golf club should have a ‘rules card’ for the “privileged” parents AND their “privileged” off spring///
    and- can we please put a stop to the ‘breeding’ of the “privileged”,,,

    just saying!

  7. -FJ says:

    The post-modern permissive father…

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  9. Jerry says:

    I like that Kia ‘Participation Trophy’ commercial where the dad and son are walking back to the car from the sports field. The kid climbs in and the dad removes “participant’ plate at bottom of trophy and writes “champs’ with a black marker there, since his kid’s football team won every game. It’s important for kids to be praised and rewarded when they accomplish victory. It’s hollow if they are rewarded for sitting nicely on the carpet.

  10. KarLLLMMMM says:

    I believe a parent needs to see its child as its “echo in eternity”.

    Once the parent takes pride that the child is a result of their efforts,

    then and ONLY then will there be a “readjustment” to today’s

    maladjusted…. GOOD LUCK..

  11. cube says:

    I agree with all of your points. We don’t need another generation of privileged snowflakes descending upon us. It’s up to the parents to take responsibility for their offspring.

    We raised two intelligent, athletic, independent young women using discipline and boundaries peppered with lots of unconditional love. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.