WomaN: Cover Thyself

The Forgotten Virtue: Modesty In Dress

Pope Pius XII (1939-1958), in harmony with the Magisterium and orthodox spiritual authors, addressed the necessity of cultivating modesty.

“How many young girls there are who see nothing wrong in following certain shameless styles like so many sheep. They would certainly blush with shame if they could know the impression they make, and the feelings they evoke, in those who see them.

“The garment must not be evaluated according to the estimation of a “decadent or already corrupt society, but according to the aspirations of a society which prizes the dignity and seriousness of its public attire.”

Actually, Modesty is a quality which is innate in women.

There is only one reason to wear a tight, low cut top or a slit skirt and we all know what that is.

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Women have a capacity for embarrassment, for blushing, and for good reason. But this trait has been calculatingly bred out of girls.

Using the debased tactics of lefty, Lib, pseudo-feminist sex ed, young girls are ‘shown’ by the media that without modesty, they suddenly morph into gleeful, liberated sex kittens, enjoying casual sex every bit as much as their male counterparts.

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The lib self haters and misogynists vehemently deny a woman’s special vulnerability and actually remove her natural way of compensating for it by dressing modestly and attempting to protect herself from unwanted glances, leering or advances.

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Modesty, historically granted women the right to “withhold themselves” from men who had dishonorable intentions. And yes, using a woman for sex without any form of commitment was viewed as ignoble and sleazy by both men and women.

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Female modesty and restraint actually forced men to prove themselves and make themselves worthy, as it were, of the women they desired.

Denying the inexorable differences between men and women is what prevents women from even attempting to protect themselves from sexual and physical abuse by the stronger, more predatory male.

Encouraging girls to act immodestly, and be “just like the guys in the locker-room”, forces a girl to expose herself where she is most vulnerable.
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Despite protestations by some men who don’t want to lose out on their animalistic, carnal pleasure, in the long run, female modesty actually benefits men.

It serves to elicit a more refined response from men, encouraging them to act like “gentlemen”. In a sense, they are subtlely coerced into behaving more honorably, from the higher parts of themselves, while cultivating the unique manly virtues of protectiveness, combined with sensual gentleness.

Judaism and Christianity have always advocated internal as well as external modesty, especially in dress. It goes hand and hand with ideals of sexual restraint.

Some women, claiming to be ‘liberated’ casually expose body parts knowing full well it will earn them what they believe is male approval or even female jealousy on the part of peers.

This is the ultimate form of self-hatred. Alienating, and forever competing with their fellow women by selling their precious bodies like meat on a hook….for casual observation, commenting, assessing and even ridiculing by any man who pleases, and who does nothing to “earn” that sight.

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Some have come to believe that in order to “survive”, get work, remain wanted, they must buy into the codes of immodesty and sexual immorality.

The female half naked singer, artist, dancer, tennis player or blogger will get more air time, more money, and…more attention………..
But, at what cost?

PC or not, according the Bible, women have always set the Moral standards for themselves, for men, and thus, for the world at large.

Modesty may not sell.
But that all depends how much of your soul is up for grabs, now doesn’t it.

Femininely passin this onto my friends over at The Virtuous Republic, Perri Nelson’s Website, Blog @ MoreWhat.com, Mark My Words, 123beta, DeMediacratic Nation, Adam’s Blog, Right Truth, Stuck On Stupid, Webloggin, Phastidio.net, Leaning Straight Up, Cao’s Blog, The Bullwinkle Blog, Pursuing Holiness, Faultline USA, third world county, Wake Up America, The World According to Carl, Blue Star Chronicles, Pirate’s Cove, Nuke’s news and views, CommonSenseAmerica, Dumb Ox Daily News, High Desert Wanderer, and Public Eye, thanks to Linkfest Haven Deluxe.

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45 Responses to “WomaN: Cover Thyself”

  1. Strawberry says:

    It has gotten to the point that even women who know better have a hard time finding anything that is decent. Either you dress like your grandmother or you expose everything! I find it very difficult to shop anymore. Frasypoo has a great site that talks about vintage clothing. I’m just not sure I’m ready to go back to hip-huggers and bell bottoms, platform shoes and paisley print knit suits! :)

    Good post, Angel – Thank you!

  2. Donald Douglas says:

    Interesting! I especially like the link between modesty and gentlemanliness. I’ve always considered myself a gentleman – maybe that’s why I didn’t get married until I was almost 30. Oh, wait. I’m turning the causal directions the wrong way.

    Great job again, Angel!

  3. Debbie says:

    You said it in your last comment, “depends how much of your soul is up for grabs”. That’s the truth.

  4. zionflag says:

    Modesty is a woman’s finest asset.
    One of your best posts ever!!

  5. nuke gingrich says:

    Nice post Angel. But I’m not real clear what you meant by this statement:
    Denying the inexorable differences between men and women is what prevents women from even attempting to protect themselves from sexual and physical abuse by the stronger, more predatory male.
    please comment.
    thanks,
    Nuke

  6. Neil says:

    Very well said, Angel – and it is more impactful coming from a woman than a man.

  7. michael says:

    I don’t usually mention my wife in my blog, or in comments on other blogs, but here it’s appropriate. She’s always dressed tzniut, and more so since we married.

    Over the years I have come to truly appreciate both her effort and skill and making herself attractive and alluring (to me!) while adhering to standards of modesty, and her desire to save something of herself for private moments. I think it’s had a positive effect on our relationship.

    Great post, Angel.

  8. John Kaiser says:

    I blame those stupid Bratz dolls.

  9. carl r says:

    This is an interesting blog.
    I have a long-term girlfriend that I have never seen wear pants in public. I used to think it was just her quirk, and that she simply loved those long flowy skirts, but this gives a very different perspective…

  10. Angel says:

    THANKS ALLS SO MUCH FOR THE INPUT!

    NUKE; so nice to see u!! What I mean is that by women being convinced to act like men because society says they are the SAME, they bare their bodies (just like the guys do…) but pay a very very steep price for immodesty and promiscuity …both psychologically, spiritually and in society my friend.

    IS THAT MORE CLEAR OR DID I MUDDLE THE WATERS EVEN MORE?..lol :)

  11. Dee says:

    Ironic how the male dominated world convinced women that they are “equal” and somehow got them to expose themselves even more…. except now women think they are doing it b/c THEY themselves want to! Thats the best form of evil… getting what you want and making the other person think thats what they want too!!!!

  12. obob says:

    in regards to the bratz dolls … I’d like to have a private conversation with the people reponsible

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  15. Chris says:

    I first want to say that I agree. Immodesty should not be encouraged as it is, but as this is America, I think men and women should be free to say/wear what they want- I would rather have freedom than oppression…

    Although, the pressure from society is where the lack of modesty originated, and I’m sure it is oppressive in its own regard, you still remain free to choose how you dress. The “downside” is of course the fact you get exposed to people being too exposed. That can be dealt with by a good moral upbringing and good education (unfortunately lacking in the PC curriculum being pushed by traitors)

    However, some women actually DO enjoy the attention from dressing without that modesty. That’s their call… as long as you are not being forced into Burkas and you are free to say or dress how you want, I’m ok. Disturbed and challenged at times, yes, but ok nonetheless. ;-P

    I would rather tell myself to look away, or explain to a kid why certain behavior they see in public is not right, than to be faced with any legislative limitations on a person’s behavior- but then again, people like us would never call for any sort of laws limiting any “rights,” just good, sound personal judgement, and education using sound logic (like that on this blog)!

    We are obviously not like those we fight against- for at this very moment they are working on passing such an underhanded right-destroying law- to control what you can and cannot say!

  16. InRussetShadows says:

    There are fewer things more attractive than a classy, modest woman.

  17. sayitlikeitis says:

    Michael, you are a fortunate husband. Lucky you!

  18. freedom now says:

    I like a variety, but I have to admit that a modest woman is a lot easier to get along with.

    Yet modesty implies bashfulness and meekness not to mention the dreaded chastity! (dreaded from a man’s point of view), but it also is the domain of humility. On the flipside arrogance and smoking are two major turnoffs to me. Modest women rarely suffer from these faults.

    There are a lot of pluses and minuses. To me it is like the choice between brunette, blonde or red head.

    Hmmm…

  19. David says:

    Good observations, Angel. I think I had my first spotting of America’s Third World County™ streetwalker (only one? well, that I’ve seen, although lotsa other gals have come very close in attire) today. Well, at least her costume, posture and demeanor were indistinguishable from the streetwalkers we used to see when we lived in “the good part of the ghetto” in KCMO back in the day…

  20. Layla says:

    Good post hun. You wrote, “Actually, Modesty is a quality which is innate in women.”

    True, except with this younger generation that believes the more endowed and plastic you can become-the more you bare-the sexier you are! PFFFFFFFFT! Spit!

  21. Kevin says:

    Great post. “Denying the inexorable differences between men and women is what prevents women from even attempting to protect themselves from sexual and physical abuse by the stronger, more predatory male.”

    This seems like the most damaging thing feminists have done to the world: Trying to say that men and women are the same. We’re not, and I’m glad for it.

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  23. Darcee says:

    There is such a hypocrisy to the modern idea of dressing like a street walker while expecting people (men) to respect you for your skills, talents and intellectual ability.

  24. Joe Gringo says:

    Across the street from my work office is a very upscale shopping area, the middle aged women with their preteen daughters prance around in the same outfits, much too revealing for the young ones as well as their mothers……just pathetic. While I don’t mind a woman looking beautiful, what many forget one thing, and that is class and decency.

  25. brooke says:

    It’s very true that we are not the same.

    And Joe is dead on-beauty and sexiness does NOT mean that you just dress less! It irritates me to no end that anytime you turn on the TV and hear the word “sexy” used as an adjective, you could easily replace it with something like “sluty” and not loose any meaning.

  26. KarLLmM says:

    Mothers…wives…and daughters!!!!
    These women are our most valued treasures.

    Kindly allow me to share a piece by a very wise man…

    Blessed is the man who finds Wisdom,
    the man who gains understanding,
    for she is more profitable than silver
    and yields better returns than gold.
    She is more precious than rubies;
    nothing you desire can compare with her.
    Long life is in her right hand;
    in her left hand are riches and honor.
    Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are Peace.
    She is a Tree of Life to those who embrace her,
    those who lay hold of her will be blessed
    A woman of valor, who can find? Far beyond pearls is her value.
    Her husband’s heart trusts in her and he shall lack no fortune.
    She repays his good, but never his harm, all the days of her life.
    She seeks out wool and linen, and her hands work willingly,
    She is like a merchant’s ships; from afar she brings her sustenance.
    She rises while it is still nighttime, and gives food to her household and a ration to her maids.
    She considers a field and buys it; from the fruit of her handiwork she plants a vineyard.
    She girds her loins with might and strengthens her arms.
    She senses that her enterprise is good, so her lamp is not extinguished at night.
    She puts her hand to the distaff, and her palms support the spindle.
    She spreads out her palm to the poor and extends her hands to the destitute.
    She fears not snow for her household, for her entire household is clothed with scarlet wool.
    Bedspreads she makes herself; linen and purple wool are her clothing.
    Well-known at the gates is her husband as he sits with the elders of the land.
    Garments she makes and sells, and she delivers a belt to the peddler.
    Strength and splendor are her clothing, and smilingly she awaits her last day.
    She opens her mouth with Wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
    She anticipates the needs of her household, and the bread of idleness, she does not eat.
    Her children rise and celebrate her; and her husband, he praises her:
    “Many daughters have attained valor, but you have surpassed them all.”
    False is grace, and vain is beauty; a God-fearing woman, she should be praised.
    Give her the fruit of her hands, and she will be praised at the gates by her very own deeds
    Proverbs 31-10:31

  27. nuke gingrich says:

    thanks for clearing that up for me :smile:

  28. Jungle mom says:

    excellent! I need to link to this and have my girls read it as well. we are very conservative and expect, even demand, that our teen girls dress modestly. I always tell them, “You be attractive and feminine without being sensual.”

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  30. Pam says:

    A much needed post Angel! I came over from Jungle Mom’s place. I don’t have daughters but have some teen girls in my life whom I enjoy mentoring. Thanks for posting this. I will use it as a resource.

  31. Gayle says:

    Dang, Angel! I was only away for one day. You’ve been very busy!

    Great post. But the girls, and many women, won’t listen. I saw a woman walking around today, pushing a baby carriage, with a top on so low that when she bent over you could see the top of her nipples! She was built very large on top and definitely didn’t need to dress like that in order to get attention. In addition, you know that the waist and belly-button was showing. I don’t get it; I really don’t! It’s as if they are begging to be raped. It’s so incredibly stupid. They don’t seem to care whether they look like a skid row streetwalker or not.

  32. Laura says:

    You should check out the modesty survey at The Rebelution.
    http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/overview

    As the mother of a teenager daughter, I found it to be a great help in terms of practical decision making. My daughter wanted to dress modestly, but it can be a bit hard to define, so the survey, which answers questions about the effect of popular fashion on young men, was *incredibly* helpful. For example, she’s always been decently covered up without cleavage showing. But I hadn’t really thought about the fact that tee shirts with slogans on the chest would be a distraction to boys and draw their eyes right to her chest.

    Great post!!

  33. Panhandle Poet says:

    Do you mean to say that blogging in your underwear is inappropriate???? — just kidding…

  34. Angel says:

    THANKS AGAIN ALLS FOR THE WONDERFUL ADDITIONS AND INSIGHTS ON THIS ONE…MEANS THE WORLD TO ME! ;)

  35. Incognito says:

    Excellent post Angel! I’m horrified at how some women and young girls dress today.

    They say less is more.

  36. sarah says:

    Unsaved women don’t care because their hearts are evil….that is why we need to spread the Gospel. There are Christian women who have so assimilated into this world that they don’t even know that they are apart of it and that God is calling them out of it to be holy and to shine like lights on a hill. Sad this isn’t being taught in many churches.

  37. michael says:

    sayitlikeitis:
    You said:
    Michael, you are a fortunate husband. Lucky you!

    She never lets me forget it, either! :)

  38. wytammic says:

    Wow! This post is right on. My husband and I were youth pastors for 10 years and involved in the youth ministry for years prior to that.

    It always broke my heart to see young women who were actually raised as Christians dress like street walkers. Much of our ministry was focused on modesty, because most teenagers learn nothing about it growing up.

    Though we are no longer youth pastors, I’m still going to print this post and send it to our many friends who are still ministering to teenagers!

    Thanks for caring enough to share :)

  39. DD2 says:

    Any respectful, fine bred, debonair, dashing, charming, and good looking Gentleman like myself will tell you that to be attracted by a women of the same caliber He must be smart, amusing, well read, cultured, polite, an authority on fine dinning and beverages, witty and an all round nice guy with a lot of cash in the bank.

  40. freedom now says:

    That cash must be the key. I have all those traits except the money…

    “Fine bred, debonair, dashing, charming, good looking, smart, amusing, well read, cultured, polite, an authority on fine dinning and beverages, witty and an all round nice guy.”

    …but I still cant get Kimberly Stewart to go out with me. Go figure!!!!!

  41. Connie McEntire says:

    Great post. I have always wondered why women don’t care enough about themselves to cover themselves. I have always wondered why men want other men to see parts of thier wives that they only should see. Things are so different today than when I was a girl years ago. It is so sad to me to see girls and women doing this to themselves. connie from Texas

  42. Defiant Infidel says:

    A very thoughtful post, Angel. My wife has always dressed very “comfortably”, as she refers to it. She wears almost nothing tight or revealing publicly. She is petite and trim, and could easily choose to do otherwise, but this has always been her conduct. I personally like and admire her modesty.

    I particularly find it objectionable to dress young, teenage girls to appear as sluts or hookers. Good parents would give greater consideration to the possible ramifications. I also must say that I believe dressing habits are personal choices and my views of one’s degree of “appropriate” dress is surely subjective.

    Your post is excellent, extremely well written and provokes your usual consideration and introspection. We also live in a country where people are free to make these choices. I applaud that, even when it offers directions deemed wrong by some. I do not support “bans”, censorship or forcing individual codes of conduct (at least in this vein) on those who do not wish to follow them.

    Much (most?) of the dressing fads I believe are based in the simple enticement/chase game that man and woman have engaged in since we existed. Those tendencies have root in some of the most elemental instinctual drives. While I believe it legitimate to form individual opinions and views of habits and perhaps even judge, to some degree, by them, I do not believe that the public has any right to dictate those choices.

  43. Angel says:

    THANKS AGAIN ALLS FOR THE WONDERFUL INSIGHTS ! :)

  44. Semper Fi Mom says:

    Excellent post! I have two daughters and as they grow it gets harder and harder to find clothes that are trendy, yet modest. I was shocked at some of the clothes I came across in stores geared to pre-teen girls while getting a head start on back-to-school shopping.

    It seems that many girls and women do not realize that how we dress can really affect how we are treated. Appearance does matter, like it or not. I’ve noticed that when I’m dressed in a feminine swishy skirt and cute but not revealing top, that men are more likely to open doors for me (which I love) and both men and women treat me more politely. Why would we not want to dress in a manner that helps others to treat us better?

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