TMI?

Blurting out too much information, or TMI, is something we’re becoming more and more comfortable with, some psychologists say. We obsess over the mundane details of celebrities’ lives and are eager to tell our own stories on blogs and Flickr accounts. And often, all that online openness seeps into everyday conversations.

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Beware the overshare in everyday conversations
No subject’s off-limits as we’re getting more accustomed to TMI

How to deal with TMI
Ever been a sounding board for an overshare? Here’s how to stop those blabbermouths from telling you more than you wanted to know, without hurting any feelings.

— Suddenly remember that you have to be somewhere. Now.
— Change the subject at the first opportunity.
— Just listen. They’ll talk themselves into silence soon.
A smile-and-nod combo never fails.

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Keep yourself out of trouble by learning how to filter your own TMI tendencies.

The key is knowing your audience. For instance, here are some appropriate ways to answer the question “How was your weekend?”

— To an acquaintance: “Oh, it was great! I spent time with some old friends.”
— To a friendly co-worker: “A bunch of us went to a bar. Good times!”
— To your best friend: “We got so wasted, I can hardly remember what happened!”

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Forget bout co-workers offering TMI.
Millions and millions of kids and teens are growin up with with a mouse in one hand ….comp-mouse-ca-small.jpgand a remote control in the other. remote-control-ca-small.jpg

Many have taken to pouring out their hearts, minds and secrets on blogs ..on line, offering a front-row view ..for all to see.

Instead of people cementing real friendships with real people, oftentimes people choose “on line friends“, or co workers choose the safety of innapproriate disclosure to those who should “not be in the know” of their intimacies.

Ah. Some will argue that the internet and personal blogging makes it easier to keep in touch with family, friends and people we care about.

It may also facilitate relationships with people we most likely would have never met offline.

But for some, it seduces them into lowering their guard and sharing too much of themselves with an audience of unknown strangers and observers.

Perhaps people should think long and hard before jumbling their professional life with their personal.

Why are some willing to allow their deep, private secrets and their very “self” out in bits and pieces to mere acquaintances at work………or complete strangers on line?

What say y’all.
How much is “too much” eh.

I grapple with this one myself. How much is too much disclosure sweet friends………..

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15 Responses to “TMI?”

  1. Incognito says:

    Interesting, query. How much is too much? I suppose it depends on who you are sharing the info with. I happen to be very open and forthright, and if I think something personal that I have experienced might, in some way, help another, I have no problem sharing. I think you can tell when you are oversharing, as they put it.

    I probably overstep the boundaries on my blog, but I created the blog specifically to allow me to vent. Sooooo….

    Good one, Angel! Something to make one ponder.

  2. Big White Hat says:

    How much is too much for a bunch of heart on the sleeve bloggers? That is a tough one.

  3. Layla says:

    Interesting post hun!

    Off topic:

    Angel, I do not know if you saw this post but I am making sure all my friends do.

    thehillchronicles.com/?p=1254

    Hugs,
    Layla

  4. Strawberry says:

    I like BWH’s question about a bunch of heart on the sleeve bloggers. Is that what we all are?

    I try not to share too much personal info but I agree with Incognito – if I think something I’ve experienced will help someone else, I am certainly willing to share.

    Great post, Angel! Thank you for making us think – guess I’ll be a little less forthcoming – NAH! :)

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  6. David says:

    “— Change the subject at the first opportunity.”

    I’ve always found it helpful to simply stare into the air over the head of a TMI revealer and start muttering about “Blue flames… blue flames! Blue flames? Blue flames!” over and over and over again or as long as it takes for them to look over their shoulder to find out what it is I’m staring at and muttering about with so much intensity.

    Either that or jump in–rudely interrupting–at every new TMI revelation with, “I had (knew, heard about) an uncle/aunt/boyhood friend/dog/pet goldfish/frog/horse who did that/had that/was that, etc.” and launch into how that person/animal’s experience was so much more intense, painful, significant, etc., than the TMI revealer’s experience, etc., etc. A real TMI killer, that.

    All kindsa ways to deal with it.

    Was that TMI?

    ;-)

  7. Donald Douglas says:

    “We got so wasted, I can hardly remember what happened!”

    Yep, that’s me – I’d probably give out my SS# when I was wasted!

  8. Azamatterofact says:

    Thanks for the info on the new diggs. Clearly not TMI but good info. I will change the link from my site.

  9. MotherPie says:

    You remind me of Miss Cellania with all of your links…

  10. KKarLlmM says:

    Clearly..”Silence is Golden” has been retired.
    The need to share endlessly is a product of wanting to be heard…
    see, i said it…
    The anxiety of “non existence”(i.e. hi!! i am over here, please notice me) forces the speaker to open doors best left closed.

  11. brooke says:

    Sooo, this one time…

    NOT!!! :lol:

  12. benning says:

    It can be a balancing act. For me, the line is one where I move from being comfortable with the information I share, to being uneasy. That’s when I stop and start rethinking what I am writing.

    As a fiction writer I have a far better way to let things out, and only I know which are from my own experience.

  13. michael says:

    I thoroughly enjoyed this post. Definitely in character for you, Angel…

  14. Panhandle Poet says:

    Two ears to hear and only one mouth to speak. Gotta be a lesson there…

  15. Defiant_Infidel says:

    HA! GOOD one! Like all things, this question requires balance and consideration of who you are talking to (and yes, who they may talk to). People seem to either be able to cultivate discretion, or not so much. Isn’t that like maturity and a lot of other characteristics, though? The shortage of comments (for your usual count) makes me think you struck a nerve with many.