WomeN Truly don't Honor Themselves

It is widely reported that women suffer depression at twice the rate of men. Apparently, more women are clinically depressed than ever before.
Why Are So Many Women Depressed?

For most women — of course, not all — careers are not nearly as fulfilling as are a good marriage and family.

Unless one believes that women and men are the same and therefore the same things bring them happiness, the feminist emphasis on career has been an obstacle to many women’s happiness. As a rule, women derive most of their happiness from relationships, not from work.

Men need both to be happy far more than women do. Men’s very identity is predicated on their answer to the question, “What do you do?” Whether fair or not — to either sex — virtually no woman’s identity is dependent on what she does for a living.

That is why, while both sexes suffer financially from the loss of a job, when men lose their jobs, they often also lose their self-worth as a man. The greater importance of work to men is also manifested in their willingness to work many more hours than woman.

..many working women either experience increased tension with their husband or increased pressure to succeed both outside the home and inside the home as mother, homemaker, and wife.

Many women are depressed because they simply feel they no longer have a defined role.

Daycare can raise their children, the maid can clean their house, even meals can be delivered, ready to pop in the microwave. Women have been told that they are now equal partners with men, but with all these needs tended to by others….. who really needs them other than for s-ex?
Who respects, protects or comforts women nowadays?

Romance and chivalry are not diminishing. They are dead, as in dead. Please spare me the ‘exception to the rule’ phenomeon by pointing out the one in a million man who is either old enough to remember how to respect women..or is the diamond amongst the wolves.

The media is inundated with por-nography and demoralizing, commercialized sex.

Young girls are mocked if they are chaste and labeled “prudes” if they are modest or object to the objectification of women. Other women tell them “they’re just jealous”. Men tell them theyr’e too “insecure” to let their boyfriends or husbands gape at other scantily clad women.

Girls are made to believe that being “cheap” is cool. Take a long look at the supermodels, or the latest anorexic starlet.

Not just rap videos. Not just every girls or womens magazine on the shelves.

Look at the ever so popular show, Dancing with the Stars, where the so called dancers slutify themselves week after week seeing who can wear less. Yet this is normalized and internalized by girls and women everywhere.

Then there are the men who play the “as long as it’s not my daughter” game.
It’s always someone’s daughter.

There’s no shame in pre-marital s-ex or s-ex without feelings or commitment right?
If the boys can do it, so can we huh?

Yes. They sure can and they do.

The “hook-up culture” is unpaid prostitution of girls and women: plain and simple.

The s-exual revolution, (what exactly were they revolting against?) has does nothing but dishonor women.

The effect of ‘free love’, which is anything but love, and promiscuous s-ex on the female psyche is totally different and infinitely more damaging for women than for men.

But of course, since Libs and Radical feminists deny the inherent differences between men and women, this horror will go untreated and certainly unremedied.

And why do ya suppose so many men have bought into this feminist myth?
Because they respect women so much?
Hardly.

It’s quite simple. Many men no longer have to be manly and no longer feel any responsibility to “take care” of their girlfriends, wives or even families.
“I can open the dang door myself”, she shrieks at him, in her plunging neckline, and 7 inch stilletoes.

This new found se-xual freedom benefits men much more than it could ever benefit women.

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Nowadays, many men don’t marry women, when they can “get what they want” easily from the so-called liberated woman, at any bar, any night of the week.

They’ve been told that even earning an income is now a 50/50 deal, so they no longer see themselves as solely responsible for supporting their families. On the contrary, they expect their wives to work and contribute their fair share. Whether they have children or not.

Women, who aren’t too indocrinated to believe they are the same as men, want their men to be their protectors, and when another man threatens their well being, they feel that way immediately- propaganda or not.

As far as mixed messages go….Feminists early on told women that “all men are pigs”. pig.gif Next thing ya know they tell women to act the same way.

When did “liberation” ever become about women wh-oring themselves rather than, what women truly want deep down – exploring the wonders of intimacy with one loving partner?

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37 Responses to “WomeN Truly don't Honor Themselves”

  1. Layla says:

    Great post Angel and so on the mark. There is not one thing I would add. It all is the truth. People better wake up and check themselves before they wreck themselves, actually, they already are wrecked! :(

  2. Perri Nelson says:

    Great post.

    I’m not so sure that men aren’t harmed by feminism as much as women though.

    Today a man has no idea what is or isn’t appropriate behavior in the workplace. What may be innocent interest in a woman can be called harassment simply because the woman feels harassed, or says she does. The man can’t win for losing.

    Notice the plunging neck-line and seven inch stilleto heels and lose your job and possibly future jobs because of a claim of harassment by a woman who doesn’t know how to dress in a non-provocative way. Ignore a woman’s advances and suffer the same fate because you didn’t respond properly, or you insulted her womanhood.

    Unfortunately, none of this is really new, or even the result of feminism. It’s all about men and women succumbing to animal urges without thought for consequence.

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  3. DragonLady says:

    Absolutely spot on. I chose to wait until I got married. Well, almost, but I did wait until I was absolutely certain he was the man I was going to marry. I was 22. I had plenty of opportunity to give it up in high school, and in college before the hubby and I dated, but I chose not to. It really wasn’t that hard to say no, and I don’t regret it.

  4. sayitlikeitis says:

    Beautiful and heartwarming. There is nothing as rewarding as a special relationship and I cherish all of mine, especially to my brother’s wife, who I consider a SISTER that I never had. Thanks for warming the heart and soul especially for those who are still in mourning for the young, and strong in Israel.

  5. Dee says:

    on the money…

  6. Jungle mom says:

    This is absolutely true! there is so much sadness today because woman believed the ‘lie’ that we needed to have it all, marriage, kids, and careers. And while I do know a few woman who make it work, something always suffers…often the marriage which is what should last and will provide emotional support in old age. A career wont help much in the later years.

  7. MariesTwoCents says:

    I am so happy my youngest daughter has never felt that she had to whore herself out to be popular in school or anywhere else. Although she is out of school now, she has only loved one boy and they are planning on getting married. When I dont know, but they have been engaged for 2 or 3 years now. I’m also fine with the boy she want’s to marry. He’s a good man I should say, he has alot of health problems and my daughter loves him anyway, and he loves her for just sticking by his side during his mess with health issues.

    She used to tell me back when she was in high school how ignorant she thought the girls were in her school that were dressing so inappropriatly. Then again my daughter has Morals which are hard to find amongst the young and I do blame thier upbringing.

    Girls deffinately need a STRONG mother and at least a father who they can be scared to death of lol

    As for myself, I have alway’s felt better when I am working and taking care of the house and all that. It seems like I have more to do and I think I saw on a recent survey that Women are alot happier when they work.

    Heck maybe they just want to get out of the house lol

    Great Post Angel :-)

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  10. Rosemary says:

    Show me a faithful, honest husband, and I’ll show you a happy woman. That is, if she knows what to do with him! Great points that you’ve made. That is I am a Feminin, not a feminist. ;)

  11. American Interests says:

    Once again telling it like it should be told ….clever posting, very clever and timely.

  12. Aurora says:

    This is so true:
    Girls are made to believe that being “cheap” is cool. Take a long look at the supermodels, or the latest anorexic starlet.

    No wonder young women are so confused. Time to break away from the pack and go back to being your own person. I think there are still some like this out there (despite the latest figures released that one in every four US teenage girls has an STD)

  13. DrewB says:

    If you want to know why chilvary is dead nowdays, have your husband open a door for a strange young woman and see the reaction he gets. The reactions run the gambit from a sniff of disdain to an outright public dressing down. Of course this doesn’t stop me from continuing to do it as I’d still be looking around the corner for my dad to swat me if I didn’t ;)

    Of course that certainly isn’t the only reason, but it doesn’t help matters any. I consider my wife and I to be a very lucky couple. We both held jobs until she got pregnant. Once we had kids, she was more than happy to stay home and take care of them. In return, I promised her that she would never be in need of anything. Now that the kids are nearly grown, she is interested in getting back into the work force, and is taking her time to find something that she will enjoy doing.

    We’ve been able to compliment each other’s strengths like this through our whole marriage. And she certainly didn’t stay home and take care of the kids because I thought it was “woman’s work.” When she had neck surgery, I took care of her, the kids and the house as well as my regular job. Of course once she was better, I had a MUCH better appreciation for how much she does.

    Anyway, my rambling point is that if men were to do what they are supposed to do in respecting and loving women, it would go a long way toward helping women to do what makes them happy. It’s a partnership!

  14. MK says:

    What Jungle Mom said, women are driving themselves up the wall trying to ‘balance’ career, family etc. You simply cannot have it all. Something always has to give because there is only so much time in the day. Concentrate too much on the career, the children suffer, or the marriage or both. I suppose a man can stay at home, while the wife is the breadwinner, i have no experience in that, so i don’t know if that works well or not. Perhaps it does, either way sacrifices have to be made, having it all wears you down and makes life more stressful.

  15. Daniel Ruwe says:

    Great points all. So many people won’t admit that feminism hurts women.

  16. kevin says:

    And the results of rude behavior are in…
    25% of American teen girls have STD’s. Thanks, Gloria Steinem.

  17. nanc says:

    the feminist movement has done so much to harm the relationships of men and women – so many men have become emasculated to the wimpy point.

    give me a strong man anyday – i’ve put my career on hold for the last several years to see our children through school and didn’t want them to come home to an empty house.

    my husband is ever so thankful for this and so proud of the way our children are turning out.

    all feminists have nasty attitudes – especially when the finally discover that you CANNOT have it all when you leave the man out of the equation.

  18. Sultan Knish says:

    the distorted idea of feminism that’s dominant today is not actual feminism, it’s just the role delineated for women by mostly male liberals and parroted by what passes for female liberal thinkers

    it isn’t meant to benefit women, it’s meant to dissolve the family and exploit women

    it’s the sort of system that men like spitzer love

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  20. Ogre says:

    Excellent post, Angel. Truly, you’ve said it all on this one — and the feminists will hate you for it!

    I do take exception at the “one in a million” men comment. I think there’s a few more of us out here. Sure, we’re complete and total dinosaurs, but we’re in the dark. We’re operating out of sight of the public because as others have mentioned, we might get fired or sued today for opening a door for the wrong woman — but in private, there are many of us here. And for those women looking for us, look in a church — that’s where a lot of us have gone; unfortunately out of the public view. :(

  21. Seane-Anna says:

    Men and women are different? Shhhh! Gloria Steinhem might hear you!

  22. angie says:

    Wow, Angel, this sure needed to be said. I agree with every word!
    I feel sorry for all of our loss. We were deceived, were we not?
    You can’t have it all!
    Great post!

  23. Mustang says:

    We will find the answer to questioned posed in this article in the title. I believe that many women find themselves married young precisely because they lack a sense of their own identity. If a young woman (or man) does not know who they are, how can they become a full partner in marital union? This crisis of identity is what causes young parents to resent their children, and the spouses, who gave them these children. Immature people make puerile marriages; few of these really last.

    Irrespective of what causes a man and a woman to be attracted to each other, one thing is certain: when the body is no longer hard and lean, when the money is no longer rolling in, when the episodes of physical love begin to decrease, when sickness invades our bodies, when only deep and abiding friendship remains, it is enough.

    Deep friendship is love in the purest sense, for it makes no assumptions; it places more value on who we are today, not what we were forty years ago. I agree that we cannot honor others until we first honor ourselves, but I also think we cannot have a true and abiding friend until we decide their happiness is of equal importance to our own.

  24. Canvas Grey says:

    It is hard to admit that we women don’t honor ourselves. But is it easy to see when the evidence is pointed out so clearly.

    I remember a commercial that defined/predicted the onslaught of depression in women:

    “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man. Cause I’m a woman!”

    Because now this expected of us. Latch-key kids weren’t included in that song…who the heck is raising the kids?

    Our society has been hypnotised by commercial personas that led/lead us to believe/desire what is dangled out in front of us as the “carrot” of life. The essense of life is to have what the commercials tell us to have because it makes everyone so happy to have it.

  25. Dapoppins says:

    I love this post, it hits home and I feel like I should copy things down so I don’t forget. I agree…the sexual revolution backfired…I think this is also part of the reason so many teen age girls are getting into physical fights… it the result of screwed up ideas, and dare I say …. careless parenting.

    Now. How can I teach my boys to be real men. Polite, but not sissy’s?

  26. Always On Watch says:

    Angel,
    An outstanding post!

    As a teacher, I’ve seen evidence of so many young girls losing self-respect because of their attempts to find love. They simply don’t know how often “love” and “lust” are confused in the minds of adolescent males. When the girls find out that the one who committed only to them are sleeping around, these young girls are crushed.

    The sexual revolution has led to girls–and women–having revolting feelings about themselves. Not to mention the proliferation of STD’s.

    —————

    With Mr. AOW out of work for the past two months, I’m longing for the days when my role was more defined. Right now, I’m having to take up a lot of slack–out of necessity, not choice. The “role reversal” is putting a strain on our relationship, I tell ya. He’s feeling low because he’s not going to work, and, to top it all off, I have to be out the door early in the morning and work late, to boot. And when I get home, I’m too weary to engage in much conversation, in part because the discussion will revolve around my having a job.

  27. Don L says:

    Once when I was in finance and used mass transit (a bus) a 40/50 ish woman got on with arms full waiting for some fool like me to stand and offer her a seat. She loudly chastized me for the longest time as to how she was perfectly capable, blah, blah,blah. When she finished her tirade and successfully attracted the attention of the entire bus, I announce just as loudly that I wasn’t offering her my seat because she was a woman, but because she was old. The bus roared.

  28. Angel says:

    THANK YOU HONORABLE FRIENDS FOR THE WONDERFUL INPUT ON THIS! :)

  29. Brooke says:

    Another gold nugget, Angel! Preach it!

  30. Incognito says:

    Brilliant post, Angel!! and kudos for having the guts to tell it like it is.

  31. KkarlMm says:

    Without getting to Biblical…where exactly did we fall off the page!!???
    The question is not Man vs Women, we are both special creations of GOD, put on this earth to complete a mission to leave it a bit better than when we arrived. Whoever started keeping score, and taking names has corrupted a process that was never intented to be a competition.
    So take a look in the mirror and see if you are EQUAL to the task, and get to work!!!

  32. benning says:

    ” [...] Libs and Radical feminists deny the inherent differences between men and women [...] ” and that syas it all. If you refuse to aknowledge the fatcs you are delusional. And these same delusional fools are the ones in charge of the Colleges, the media, and the political powers.

    I wait the first female Linebacker to make the team on an NFL team. That’ll show me!

    I still open the car door for a lady, and the doors to a building. Perhaps because I’m fairly tall no one screeches at me that they can do it themselves. But I have seen it with others. And that’s simply rude, unmannerly, un-lady-like behavior. Manners have gone out of style along with our common sense approach to the sexes.

  33. Debbie says:

    I think there is confusion between love and lust. Love is something that lasts, even as we grow older. Lust if fleeting.

  34. VBGru613 says:

    Blame goes on People magazine and all the other groups that give attention to the make up and airbrushed pictures that will never be a reality.

  35. The Hermit says:

    Things have changed a lot since I was a young man. I’ve stopped opening doors for women I don’t know because you’re more apt to be scathingly rebuked than thanked. I do still stop and change tires for women broken down by the road, but I don’t know anyone else that does. The feeling among most of my friends is “if you want to be liberated, so be it. Fix your own flat.”

  36. Machiavelli says:

    Great article.

    In economics, having it all is called an opportunity cost.

  37. James says:

    Actually i agree AND disagree. It’s true that presure shouldn’t be put on women to “have it all” but why are careers put to blame. I know many women who want a great career and who feel worthless if they don’t have a career they want. I know some who’d rather concentrate on raising kids. I know some who’d rather do both. This is the same for men.

    Ther are obviously a few problems here:

    a) Blaming feminism. Feminism is only trying to make women’s lives btter after all before feminisM women suffered greatly. On top of that women do still suffer but not because of femenist but because of society that has a “damned they do damded if they don’t attitude towards women”. Feminst are peolple who want equality so blaming them for sexist men!

    b)Women were expected to be perfect and not humans who are individauls and make mistakes. And guess what they still are. E.g before they were expected to settle down and be the”perfect” wife now they expected to have it all and be “perfect”at it. Do you see what the problmem is? It’s called double standards. Where men can be perfect and imperfect, chose to have it all or nothing and still be seen as an indivduals (after all how many times have you haerd people say wome are always this but when it comes to me you gte ‘not all men are like that!)

    c) Sexist men have a habit of making anything good in a women’s life bad i.e if a women sleeps arond she’s a slut if she dosn’t she’s frigid rather than she can do either because it’s her body.