Young Pass-ionate Love…or Mature Love…

Using functional magnetic resonance imaging, researchers have actually observed the effects of love on the brain.
When people in the early stages of infatuation are shown photos of their sweethearts and told to think about them, areas of the brain rich in the chemical dopamine are activated. Dopamine produces very powerful pleasurable sensations.

Cocaine and amphetamine, for example, produce their effects by spurring the release of dopamine.

As relationships mature, however, those areas are less responsive to the mere sight of one’s lover. To be successful, the relationship must evolve from dopamine-driven euphoria to a more mindful cultivation of love and respect.
How Marriage Helps Your Brain
Flowers and candlelight dinners help, but so do exploring and experiencing the world together. In fact, one area of the brain that “lights up” in these later stages of love is the cortex, the same place where information is stored and rational decisions are made.

Ah yes. Passionate love. How exciting.How electrifying!love-inloveani.gif

But if there’s one sure thing about it…it’s this : It doesn’t last. loveaniuu.gif

Daily stressors, arguments over money, raising kids, or the most trivial of things can deflate that passion and romantic love in a hearbeat.

The happiest folk are the ones who despite disappointing each other at times…still insist on showing kindness, acceptance, compassion, and love to their partners…which, ironically, oftentimes – leads to more of those very same qualities from their partner.

Let’s be honest.
Everyone messes up…ok..some more than others. Heh.
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But hanging on to grudges or betrayals for dear life , make you perpetuate the damage, sometimes endlessly.
T’aint easy but sometimes, if you can’t seem to let go of your pain, bitterness or hurt, a counselor or close friend can help you learn ways to forgive and to finally just let it go.

Nothing can rekindle your love faster than just having fun together.
What’s fun you ask?..Pfftt.coupleanizz.gif
C’mon..You remember fun..dontya?

-Take long walks.
-Learn something new together.
-Laugh. ok..that was corny...but what’s better medicine than laughter…you tell me.

-Or…just do Nothing- together.

-Compliment…………..alot. Heh. (That’s for you boys) flirt1.gif

-Use pet names…be generous with hugs and kisses.

-Listen. Just……….listen.

-Take vacations.

-Pray together.

Rebuild the love……….a litte bit..every day.

And..um…Leave some things..unsaid.

“I have learned that only two things are necessary to keep one’s wife happy. First, let her think she’s having her own way. And second, let her have it.”
Lyndon B. Johnson

“My husband and I divorced over religious differences. He thought he was God, and I didn’t.”coupleani-nuddy.gif

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.
Barnett R. Brickner

My wife says I never listen to her. At least I think that’s what she said. Ha.bitelip.gif

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48 Responses to “Young Pass-ionate Love…or Mature Love…”

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  3. MK says:

    :) Love the hedgehog cartoon.

    But that’s some good advice you’ve dished out there Angel. Must trying and remember that.

    “-Compliment…………..alot. Heh. (That’s for you boys)”

    So if your wife asks if she looks fat in something, it’s not a good idea to say ‘yes’?
    If she says, i feel fat, it might be a bad idea to say, ‘that’s because you are’, no?

    :grin:

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  6. Aurora says:

    Nice post, Angel. There’s nothing like long-term love. It’s even better than the fizz at the beginning. Without it we’re physically, emotionally and financially much worse off according to the stats.

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  8. Brooke says:

    The long-term stuff is great. There’s nothing like knowing that he’ll come home from work, ect, again and again.

    And of course, excellent point: Kindness begets kindness, and visa versa.

  9. nanc says:

    all true!

    i believe in always lifting your mate up, especially when it seems everything is going down.

    your sweet attitude will crush their nasty ‘tude every, single time.

    good weekend to you!

  10. Daniel Ruwe says:

    Good post, Angel.

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  14. Jungle mom says:

    All so very true! My husband, a minister, speaks at marriage seminars quite often, entitled, “Love and Respect”.

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  16. DD2 says:

    I love your pictures Angel.
    But “Young Pass-ionate Love…or Mature Love”… Don’t matter…Love is Love
    I’m all for it.

  17. dapoppins says:

    I love the sound of my husbands laugher! I just cant be mad, even after eleven years, if he is laughing. Your right, I did enjoy this post, and the cartoons made me smile.

  18. Tim says:

    You have a great looking blog here. Keep up the great work.

    PS I found this place from DD2′s blog

  19. Panhandle Poet says:

    Laugh together is very important.

  20. Perri Nelson says:

    Nothing beats commitment for holding a marriage together. When you marry you make a solemn vow “for richer or poorer, for better or worse, in sickness and in health till death do us part”. Altogether too many people these days are happy to simply ignore that and turn it around to “until a better looking girl or a richer man comes along”.

  21. Debbie says:

    That’s very interesting about the MRI. Some relationships begin with infatuation, physical attraction, etc. then grow into the real thing. Others begin as true love at first sight and grow stronger from there. Maturing love is a gradual process and I don’t think it ever stops or reaches a peak.

  22. Z says:

    and SOMETIMES, for a little while, you have to pretend you still like him….and it works! On BOTH of you!
    Love is a decision and that mundane boring stuff everybody worries about is the best stuff; coming home at the same time, eating at the same time…if you make it fun somehow.
    Sometimes, I think “if he says that again at the exact same time he said it yesterday, and the day before, I’ll…….” and then, I think what if he doesn’t? And that’s worse.

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  25. obob says:

    Yeah, I’m a sucker for my wife. One of those things. When she smiles it is a perfect symmetry of beauty. And she keeps me for some reason

  26. Layla Elizabeth N Gonzalez says:

    Those who love longest love best…….

    And by the way, mature love has much more passion than the myth of youth and passionate love.

    Good post. Have a great weekend hun!

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  30. Gayle says:

    LOL Angel. I’ve been married for a long, long time and the passion is still there. To bad my husband and I can’t bottle the secret. We’d make a fortune!

    I’ll have to do some trackbacking later. I’m in a hurry this morning. :)

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  34. Tapline says:

    Angel, Well, I will be married, God willing, 50 years next December…..And the secret, I will reveal….Some days it is a 50%/50% split other days its 10%/90%. others its 90%/10% it depends but its all give and take…….Of course love it the glue that binds, Forgiveness is always needed and that also is a two way street…..stay well….

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  38. Mustang says:

    Wait a minute, Angel. You mentioned, “the effects of love on the brain.” We need to take a closer look at this so-called research, my friend. Since when have guys had brains?

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  44. KkarLLmM says:

    Great lesson of love, Angel…
    thanks so much for the insights and cartoons to keep me laughing.
    My Friendship (read as Marriage) works so well because 1+1=1, no matter what the situation, i know its US to till the end. So whatever blip is temporarily on the screen it will indeed pass, and there we will be US=1, when the smoke clears.

  45. angie says:

    Angel, I love your pics. What great lessons for us. Yep, I love laughter.. and being my best friend. It sure helps when some of the suggestions you have shared is followed. Like a little romance sometimes…just sometimes…listening..just a smile and affirmation of love…and the travel and learning together is a biggie!

    Lots of love coming your way with hugs and a big Thank you for the work you do here.

  46. Angel says:

    THANKS SO MUCH FOR THE SWEET COMMENTS Y’ALL! :)

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  48. Defiant_Infidel says:

    When I go out to play, I am accused of never growing up. A buddy of mine once said that my passion for play is so great, I apply myself like it was my job!

    But in love, growing up is a mandatory first step. Most do that later, if ever.