This Angel’s Grief

How do we deal sweet friends with the disappearance of something cherished, with the death of someone so so loved and revered.

Feeling disoriented, disturbed, angry, relieved, distressed and oh so sad all at the same time.

Grief is a tidal wave that over takes you,
smashes down upon you with unimaginable force,
sweeps you up into its darkness,
where you tumble and crash against unidentifiable surfaces,
only to be thrown out on an unknown beach, bruised, reshaped…

Grief will make a new person out of you,
if it doesn’t kill you in the making.

(Stephanie Ericsson)

I was gently reminded ..that humor..is the back side of agony.

How many times must we “learn to live again”?

Will be away for a few days my beloved friends.
God Speed.

56 Responses to “This Angel’s Grief”

  1. Angie says:

    Angel, I am praying for you..I am so sorry that you are hurting.

    Hugs

  2. Katie says:

    I understand your grief. It isn’t learning to live again that you need, but learning to love life again. I know this from experience having lost both my parents and my hubby.

    My prayers go out to you and your’s.

  3. Z says:

    Oh, Angel! I’m so very sorry for your loss! Love and prayers go out to you.
    (you, too, Katie…I dread the day)

  4. David Aronin says:

    Dear Angel,

    I am so sorry for your loss, and will pray for you and yours.
    Please know how much of a support and inspiration you are to all of us who know you through the internet . And that we all desire very much to be as helpful as we can to you in return.
    Honored to be your friend,
    always
    David Aronin

  5. Veritas says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss Angel. Know that you are in our hearts and minds.

  6. dapoppins says:

    I am so sorry for your greif. I never understood it until I lost my grandma who I was very close too. I didn’t expect it to be painful. But it was. Now I have loads of lovely memories.

    I hope you are doing okay. It usually helps me if I have a kid near by to hug. If you don’t have some, you can barrow mine. They are very hugable.

  7. KarLMm says:

    Please remember Angel,
    we are all here for you in your time of need, anything/everything…
    whatever it is we are here…

    When youre down and troubled
    And you need a helping hand
    And nothing, whoa nothing is going right.
    Close your eyes and think of me
    And soon I will be there
    To brighten up even your darkest nights.

    You just call out my name,
    And you know whereever I am
    Ill come running, oh yeah baby
    To see you again.
    Winter, spring, summer, or fall,
    All you have to do is call
    And Ill be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
    Youve got a friend.

    If the sky above you
    Should turn dark and full of clouds
    And that old north wind should begin to blow
    Keep your head together and call my name out loud
    And soon I will be knocking upon your door.
    You just call out my name and you know where ever I am
    Ill come running to see you again.
    Winter, spring, summer or fall
    All you got to do is call
    And Ill be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.

    Hey, aint it good to know that youve got a friend?
    People can be so cold.
    Theyll hurt you and desert you.
    Well theyll take your soul if you let them.
    Oh yeah, but dont you let them.

    You just call out my name and you know wherever I am
    Ill come running to see you again.
    Oh babe, dont you know that,
    Winter spring summer or fall,
    Hey now, all youve got to do is call.
    Lord, Ill be there, yes I will.
    Youve got a friend.
    Youve got a friend.
    Aint it good to know youve got a friend.
    Aint it good to know youve got a friend.
    Youve got a friend.

  8. Z says:

    dapoppins is so right about hugging a kid..that helps about anything, doesn’t it, dapoppins.

    Angel, I almost can’t look at that concrete angel…so much emotion in stone. Beautiful
    Karl mm’s lyrics are perfect..you’ve got a lot of friends..
    thinking of you, sweetie…………z

  9. tapline says:

    Angel, I don’t know the source of your grief, but I do know Grief can be gut ripping. keep the faith and god speed. stay well…

  10. Yankee Doodle says:

    Hiya, Angel!

    Like Z says, you’ve got lots of friends. We’re all hoping for the best for you, and we’re all praying for you.

    Take care.

    :)

  11. MK says:

    Hang in there Angel, will pray for ya.

  12. Aurora says:

    Best wishes, hun. Sending you a big hug.

  13. Perri Nelson says:

    Hurting for you Angel.

    I pray that you and yours come through it all stronger. I pray that you remember the good things and minimize the bad, and know that you have others that care, many that you’ve never even met.

  14. Gayle says:

    Oh, Angel, I’m so sorry to know that you are suffering. I will add you to my prayers, girlfriend.

    May God bless you and help you heal.

  15. DD2 says:

    Please be well and safe Angel

  16. D. Ox says:

    My prayers are with you, Angel. We need to remember that God has everything in mind, and no one that was good for us will be separated from us forever.
    Love and Peace,
    D. Ox

  17. Brooke says:

    Hi, Angel! You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Time heals all wounds, or so they say, but in the interim I hope God puts a salve on your hurt.

  18. Panhandle Poet says:

    :(

  19. Layla says:

    Sometimes silence is best. But know you are loved and thought of by us all and know that I do know loss and because of that I can honestly tell you that you have love in your life. It is there Angel in your heart – around you – just tap into it and it will be there. G-d bless you and I am sorry for your loss.

  20. Defiant_Infidel says:

    He is free again, Angel. He has stepped into his destiny and ascended. Temper your pain with the pure knowledge that he holds God’s hand, as we each will someday. There is no dying, sweet lady. There is only eternity and it awaits us all. You have the memories today, as you did yesterday, and will also tomorrow. They are cherished and golden, there to be unfolded… relived. They are yours… forever.

    May time dry your tears with the faith that beats strongly in your heart. God bless you, Sweet Angel.

  21. Joe Gringo says:

    Angel, very sorry to hear about what you are going through, just remember, you’ve got a base of some solid folk here praying for you!

    Be safe my friend.

  22. Debbie says:

    My prayers are with you Angel.

    Prayers can work miracles, God can lift us up from our sorrow and carry us through to the other side. Depend on him, I know you will.

  23. Jungle Mom says:

    Prayers are going up for you. I trust you will feel HIS healing touch.

  24. nanc says:

    GO WITH GOD, angel. there’s simply no other way. the grief never leaves, it just seems overtaken with joy at other times. i’m sorry for your loss.

  25. bernie says:

    I lit a candle in my heart.

  26. Always On Watch says:

    Angel,
    My condolences to you. “Condolences” doesn’t begin to express what I’m sending to you, however.

    I’ve lost more friends and family members than I can care to think about right now. And so has Mr. AOW. We miss our gone loved ones forever (in this life), but the grief does subside some.

  27. The BoBo says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss. My younger brother passed a way a few years back at a very young age. I feel you pain. Just know that God is by your side and will help your pain, and , live will go on again. My prayers go out to you!

  28. Faultline USA says:

    I am so sorry for your loss Angel. God bless you and keep you in your time of grief.

  29. Bar Kochba says:

    HaMakom yinachem otach betoch shaar avlei Tziyon v’Yerushalayim.

    May HaShem comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

    Be strong, my friend.

  30. JMK says:

    I believe your friend DI is right.

    I’m glad you’re taking some time for yourself.

    You’re in my prayers as well.

  31. Otto - American Interests says:

    How many times must we learn to live again? Lord knows, somehow I had to learn once again in early 2005 and a new person was eventually born. But these comments are not about me, so you are in our prayers. Time will assist Angel but time, takes time. Be strong, in as much as you can be my friend …

  32. MariesTwoCents says:

    My prayers are with you Angel.

    Having just lost my Mother I can understand exactly what you are going through.

    It’s the most awful emotion on earth ‘Greif’

    Some say time heals all wounds but I’m not quite sure that’s true.

    Time makes the loss a little more bareable every day that passes, and that sense of loss get’s a bit easier, but you never get over it. I think you just get used to it.

    But life does go on and you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try your hardest to get through it. Especially when others are depending on you.

    Again sweetie, my prayers are with you.

  33. darcee says:

    *hugs* for you. You are in my prayers.

  34. In_spired says:

    Angel Friend, Thank you for the message! I appreciate you so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  35. vegas art guy says:

    My thoughts are with you. You’ll get through this.

  36. EDGE says:

    Hey Angel! Hope you are doing better! Thinking about you!

  37. Layla says:

    Thanks for the sweet e-mail in your time of grief. How selfless of you to think of others when it should be who is showered with attention, care and love.

    Do not make the mistake I did – I tried to take care of everyone else and make them feel better, I paid dearly for that later.

    Take care of yourself and take all the time you need for yourself. We will all be here waiting.

    We all love you.

  38. Layla says:

    sorry hun, who is should be YOU. my bad.

  39. Debbie says:

    Thanks for your email also, Angel. Thinking of others in your own time of need, … the sign of a true Angel.

    Resolve: To be of the belief that things will get better. That no matter how low, how tough, or how unfair life has been, all of us have the right and indisputable opportunity for greatness. The resolve that IF we could endure theh worse of times, then our mind-set SHOULD be that we COULD and SHOULD damn well accomplish anything. That no matter how wretched or hurtful an experience may be, we have to summon the strength to confront it, take charge, and let it go in order to move forward and live a full, rich life.

    This is for you Angel, from the hbook MOVING FORWARD, by Dave Pelzer, Preface, page xv,

    You CAN do it!

  40. Jason says:

    My heart hurts with yours Angel. I don’t know your loss here but just know that I stand behind you and will pray for God to send you the peace that passes all of our understanding.

  41. Gayle says:

    I hope you are okay, Angel. Prayers are going up for you.

  42. Right Truth says:

    Moving Forward…

    Moving Forward, Taking the Lead in Your Life, by Dave Pelzer, will be the Right Truth Book Club selection for the month of July. I am posting this a little early because a friend, Angel, at Woman Honor Thyself, is going through a rough time and I tho…

  43. Don L says:

    Angel, we all feel the pain with you, but don’t forget the guy upstairs at moments like this.

  44. Freedom Now says:

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    You didnt lose us, though…

    We’re here for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  45. In_spired says:

    God has ‘something up His majestic sleeve’! Suddenly, (it seems) in the small realm of my world, there are heavy burdens; people calling out for intercession to the Holy God for healing….health, financial, accident, marital.
    Prayer lists are multiplying each day that passes. My heart cries out, “GOD! How can one person pray for so many people?” His word tells me to arise early in the morning before a hectic day begins and start lifting names to Him. He is faithful to hear my unspoken plea.

    Through what seems to be unsurmountable burdens to us humans, I believe He is beginning to gather His people together, uniting us, strengthening us, and empowering us to face some real hardships in the next few years. Angel, this is what you’ve been writing about! I don’t know whether you’ve thought about it or not but you’ve been His messenger.

    Angel, you have become a part of “my small world” and right now as I write this comment, I am lifting your name (the only one I know) to God. He knows, He listens, He cares and He loves you! I ask Him to bless you today. Tomorrow I’ll ask Him again. Be strong…

  46. The Hermit says:

    I don’t know what happened, but it sounds bad. I hope you are doing all right.

  47. benning says:

    Grieve, heal, hurry back.

    *Hugs*

  48. frasypoo says:

    Hi Angel,
    Praying for you at this time.Grief is a hard cross to bear.
    Hugs

  49. DD2 says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you Angel.
    And loving thoughts are with you in your heartbreaking loss.
    May God Bless you and your family.
    I hope you will stay well and strong. And please come back to us when you feel up to it. As you can see we all miss you very much.

  50. dapoppins says:

    No one could ever forget you…we miss you and send our prayers your way….

  51. Pinky says:

    Angel,
    much love and prayer for you right now. I don’t know about your loss, but your pain is fresh, obviously. Please give yourself time and don’t let anyone put a timeline on your grief.
    God will never leave you or forsake you.
    Nurture yourself.

  52. Shayne says:

    I think that the large number of people who have commented here is a gret testament to the power of love we have for you, Angel. It may not bring your loved one back, but at least it will make going on easier.

    Godspeed.

  53. Otto - American Interests says:

    Thanks for the e-card, give yourself ample time … Godspeed

  54. Angel says:

    THANK YOU DOESN’T EVEN BEGIN TO COVER IT…DEAR FRIENDS..i HOPE TO BE BACK IN THE SADDLE BY TOMORROW.
    YOU CAN NOT FATHOM HOW MUCH YOUR WORDS AND PRAYERS MEAN TO ME.
    MAY THE GOOD LORD BLESS EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU.

    HUGSSS.
    YOUR HUMBLE FRIEND…ANGEL :)

  55. Sunflower Desert says:

    It saddens me to learn of your loss and pain. The Holy Spirit is our Comforter, and I pray He comforts you. You are a dear friend, and I’m praying for you.

  56. elmers brother says:

    Angel…praying for you!