What the self-promoting world needs now is shyness, yup..alot more shyness..

Shyness, we might say, is suffering a crisis of confidence. Hovering at the fringes of psychiatry, a possible indicator (but then again, possibly not) of what the mental health industry now calls Social Anxiety Disorder, shyness doesn’t quite know what to do with itself. How very uncomfortable for shyness.
Shyness is feeling a bit awkward these days.

And right now, shyness is countercultural. Consider: On the reality shows, where variations of mass personality are developed in vitro, the great thing is to be noisy, certain, motivated, taking no guff from anyone.

You have to be out there, letting people know who you are: Exposure, formerly something one died of, is now thought to be desirable.

Right down the middle of the street you walk, shouting into your cellphone about your sex life, your tax return, your drug use, your spiritual evolution, whatever.

Oh for a shy person, in such a climate — for the fascination of a shrinking violet! Peer through those petaled layers of self-consciousness, those secretive leaves; there’s somebody in there.


So stand up and be counted, shy ones. Or actually, stay right where you are: discreetly off-center, quietly contrarian, wafting your complex vibes across the room. Refuse to be noisy. Refuse to be brassy. Be bold: Be shy.


Our culture jus can’t seem to get enough of the insolent, brash, mine-is-bigger-than-yours self-loathers eh?

So Shyness is now a sickness eh?..Ah yes…..Libs thrive on pathologizing normal human behavior.
Then again, they’re also in the business of non-pathologizing delusions, self-deceptions and hallucinations by telling us what’s healthy and what isn’t, what is wrong and what is right..

Oh yes..people are “born” homosexual..uh huh.crazysmile..and… errrrr… girls and women should walk in the streets half nek-ked for um..”empowerment”. Rrright.

But I digress….

I am not referring to people who suffer deep self-consciousness accompanied at tmes with physical pain and dread due to profound social anxiety.
Just your ordinary “shy” person.

The “experts” nowadays would most likely posit that consideration for others, politeness, refraining from vulgarity and po-rnography are all shamefull “illnesses” which should be treated.


Exhibitionism? Oh, the “experts” on self esteem are all on board with that.
Watch Oprah lately?
The more sleazy yer story..the more air time ya get.

Vulgar, loud, boisterous people are jus so dang cool right?
Well, guess what?. Shyness, if not crippling..can be quite intriguing, appealing, even somewhat mysterious.

I mean what exactly is a self proclaimed “expert” or my favorite title of all….a “Life coach”?

Who appointed them and who decided just how ‘substantial’ their characters are anyhoo?

Do we all need to be constantly rambling, annoyingly talkative , with pointless, shallow logorrhea?


What happened to the Strong, Silent type?

By the way……….Anyone know of an elixir or serum..oooh perhaps some sorta mass hypnosis, that could bring the blessings of shyness to the tactless, mouthy, loose lipped Lefty ranters and ravers?



16 Responses to “Shyness”

  1. jadedfellow says:

    I will boldly go where most men can’t go.

    “No comment.”


  2. Nickie Goomba says:

    Consider me your Life Coach.

    Here’s my advice… talk softly. Carry a big stick.

  3. Brooke says:

    As TR said, speak softly and carry a big stick!

  4. KarL M says:

    “The gate to wisdom is silence”….or i am just left speechless…
    you will never know…maybe its because i am SHY!!!!!!!!

  5. Karen Howers says:

    Excellent point, Angel. Especially with the Millennial Generation, we’re seeing the result of “no shame” and the over-emphasis on self-esteem that’s being taught nowadays.

  6. Opus06 says:

    I agree with you. Less is more.

  7. Robert "the infidel" Garding says:

    love the line “exposure, once something you died of……” Great post my friend. Love your take on this one.

  8. Debbie says:

    Interesting Idea Angel!

  9. The Malcontent says:

    “What happened to the Strong, Silent type?”

    Well I don’t know if you’d call me Silent!

  10. Always On Watch says:

    Self-esteem is overrated. Really.

    In fact, taken to the extremes of today, self-esteem is nothing more than a huge ego trip.

  11. Matt says:

    “Self esteem” is not only over-rated, but self destructive. Since it is based on feelings and not facts, people can get very twisted, and then feel great about it.

  12. Early Light says:

    It’s funny how the “conventional wisdom” is becoming increasingly unconventional.

  13. slamdunk says:

    I am with you on this one. Finding people who are willing to be shy to listen instead of talk non-stop is a rare thing.

  14. EDGE says:

    “Talk low, talk slow, and don’t talk too much.” – John Wayne

  15. Claudia says:

    And what about TV programs in which people tell the audience about their own private lifes, hein? And this kind of people who tell you about their private lifes the same moment you know them?

    Although I believe than more than shyness, what we need is discretion. ;)

  16. dapoppins says:

    discretion, grace, politeness, manners…all are become extinct.